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Are those wishes all that important..!

2006-11-14T14:10:00.000-08:00

It was my b'day yesterday. and all i wanted was to hear from all my near and dear friends a few wishes. I wanted to have a silent one. So pretty much did not have the symptoms of "its my b'day". dressed in the same crapy clothes. Got up at the same time. and every other normal thing ...i would do...No one even remembered it was my b'day. I really did not care of getting those wishes.

.....but end of day, no one even wished. Probably all those i received when i had the symptoms of " it's my b'day today" were just fake wishes from my friends and colleagues.

....One thing i got to admit. I felt really lonely when i did not hear any wishes from anyone. Even the website's i had registered sent me a b'day card. I guess i got to learn to love the virtual world.

The good and bad of western culture

2006-11-14T03:37:00.000-08:00

What do we really like about the western culture

Good Points
1. Not much of difference in any job pays. Most people are paid the same irrespective of type of a job.
2. People do accept multiculturalism
3. Kids independent at 18.
4. Men and women are equal
5. Everyone has an equal right of speech. ( I have seen even a 5 year old kid given a chance to speak)
6. No hierarchy in work place.
7.. and many more

Bad Point
1. Men and women are not really very serious about relationships
2. Not much care for there parent. Expect the government to take care. ( i know a guy who charges his old mother to take her on a vacation)
3. Everyone wants to live there own life.(really dont much care about the other person)
4. Too much fashion conscious at times
5. ...

Will these are only my perosnal. but personally i like this western culture
would anyone like to add a little to these points.

Post Marital Sex

2006-07-30T17:30:00.000-07:00

I read this post on premarital sex by Fishy_Ishy. Quite interesting debate she did start. I wouldn't really mind being with a women who has lost her virginity before meeting me. Not everyone can neccessarily control there sexual emotions. Hormones do play up and wanting for sex at a particular age i guess is just normal. so if you did have had sex before marriage its fine.

but i like to take this topic to a different level. With the influence of western lifestyle influence (we desi's) i have seen many people men/women being involved in post marital sex. Ofcourse though many men have always been involved in post marital sex in India too, it has never come to the point where women have got the courage or were exposed. Well if the men did find those women who were they...ofcourse many married too. Hey Nithi if you did read this post why dont you steer a topic on this. I would like to know about others opinion on this topic.

A new recent trend in post marital sex is "One Night Stands". You Girl/Guy went to a party met nice friendly person of opposite sex, had a nice wonderfull chat, knew you will never meet again, decide to have fun and have sex. Ofcourse its forgotten the very next day. You get on with your normal life with your partner. I am sure you end of having sex with your partner too the very same week. Things haven't really changed just because you slept with some other person. People just look at it as a good thrill ride they went. It like you still eat desi daal, but once a while you like to go for a nice chinese cusine. Both the men and the women accept this. Well haven't been really sure how far they do talka bout there other encounters with each other, they do very well know there partners do have a one night stands once a while.

But its become a way of living in the western world. Relationships are altogether going to a new level. Is this acceptable!

Watch the movie mixed double though the director did try to bring out an eccentric lifestyle in todays world, i was not quite sure if his motives of what he tried to say did quite reach the common.

Will continue more on this topic.

Money does solve lots of problems

2006-07-23T20:37:00.000-07:00

Money i think is one of the driving force in today's humans.

Everything is centered around money. Money makes and breaks relationships.

Recently i broke up with a friend of mine. I thought when we are friends we donot look out for what we spend on each other. But one fine morning he comes over and asks me for a huge some of money. I tell him i dont have. he then puts down a list of times when he had spent money on me and wants me to repay it back. I said it is rediculous there are times when i have spent on you and i dont have a track of all that. I really became so furious....i had to put an end..i said i am not giving a penny..."Do what you want to do"

Sorry for the long gap

2006-07-23T20:36:00.000-07:00

Hey guys...I am extremely sorry for the long gap. I just got too busy with my work.
Love to blog so will keep up with my blog.

love doesnt start in bed

2006-06-11T18:46:00.000-07:00

Age , Hormones do have an influence on once sexual interests. Yes though we all know life is not sex alone, sex does play a vital part in once relationship with the other partner.

If the either partner is not satisfied with each other sexually ...do marriages/relationships break up . Now i dont know how to answer this. Yes people do love each other but sometimes...bodily pleasures and hormones dominate once behaviour.

Well a little more eccentric while one partner has a high libido while the other has other important things in life to worry about that night and just wants a few cuddle and go to sleep ...but both do love each other...how can things be tackled...

Now the partner who went to sleep ...does know that the other partner has not been satisfied today...meaning ..failing to please him / her. Thats surely a bad feeling to have. But what if the either partners are matured enough to understand people do go through ups and downs and sparks cant happen every night and worry about other important things...

I do not know how to complete this blog but want to write more. Will add later..untill see you guys..!

Life moves smoothly

2006-06-06T18:27:00.000-07:00

One step ahead...have accepted to share all expenses and take responsibilities...Now am i buying her with money...! i dont know...i cant put it that way...but one might look at it that perspective..! When the two parties are working and we share expenses and the two parties rely on the expenses of the other for a smooth running...does that mean we are more into each other...or are we more circumstantial...!

well i dont know i cant really think it that way...i accept to put all my expenses into hers and share her daily expenses and make the whole things happening around her move smoothly...But i got to admit money does play a vital role in a relationship....

is the reason why most non-working women still stick to there husband even though they dont have a happy life..(ofcourse i am talking about houses in which there is trouble). Where the lady cannot quit as she doesnt have the capability to survive on her own foot and has been for generations surviving under the shelter of the man...The case reversed..when both the male and female work ...the female/male take bolder decisions to split up if things dont work out between each other and learn to move on with life.

Anyway i think she has accepted me ...as a close part of her...or may be a very trustfull friend (one step ahead in a positive relationship i am looking into) and is comfortable to spend the money i earn too...!

Well i am all happy to give all the money i earn ...as eventually she spends it on the wonderfull kids and things in the house which i enjoy ...

Tell you onething i feel a " A Feeling of Bliss" when i am around her.
She says i am too emotional and a typical scorpio...! well i dont know i really feel immense happiness.

Life moves smoothly....Went for a wonderfull Dinner with her friends and family. Each with there own partners...and she with me...really romantic...:-)

Thats the last words she said

2006-05-29T18:58:00.000-07:00

Hey ...I think may be i am in love with you..! but i dont know..anyway i wont let go of you as your a really nice guy and you do keep me happy...

so i see things working out..! i am really happy

watched the movie Fanaa..together..in theatres!

Do women go through moods

2006-05-29T18:45:00.000-07:00

Hey guys ...Sorry for the sleepover i had...just been busy with work at Uni. Had many things happening...

Well about us we two, we are still living together.

But i just cant understand do women go through moods...She keeps changing. She likes, dislikes, likes, dislikes...

i just cant understand women at times

Terrible Emotional Clash

2006-05-08T17:24:00.000-07:00

I was a bit too pushy. It backfired. I did not give her , her own space. She left for work late because of me. I am so stupid. I couldn't handle my emotions. I cry everytime she says a few words of denying our relationship. She said i am giving her an emotional blackmail. She said the only reason she is with me because the kids like me.

I told her i like everyone and if i have play low to win there hearts its fine. It just a feeling of bliss to be with them. i cant explain.

I told her i never compromise on my studies but can never compromise on anything. If i want to acheive something i will at any cause

Simple works around the House

2006-04-26T02:19:00.000-07:00

We had a new Door fixed at her fixed at the back entrance at her place. I had a new lock put on my door as her kids were sneaking into my room and puting my stuff away for fun. We went to the movies during the weekend. Her kids are really wonderfull. The boy (Elder child) is really good at arithmatic skills. I just tell her to keep pushing him and making him learn more. We never know what his true potential is. and making your basics strong at arithmatic skills always helps at a later point in life. We cleaned up the house. Fixed up the garden a little bit. Her Car break lights were not working , her brother fixed that. I fell sick. Had acute gastritis. She took me to the hospital (ofcourse had to leave after i reached there as the kids were alone at home) , it was really kind of her. I was admitted in it and stayed there the whole day. Inshort it was a big weekend out here.

Her Uncle expired.

2006-04-26T02:15:00.000-07:00

Her uncle expired last Monday. He was supposed to have been a good family friend and we all had been there. Well i was surprised of the ritual formalities in australia where people are to have had the more western culture but here it was totally different. They were following more primitive traditional methods than that of what is followed in india. They are doing Pooja for 13 days. and every day evening we have to go and listen to "The Gita".

Plans for a house renovation

2006-04-19T14:06:00.000-07:00

She plans to renovate her house. As a part of this she said if possible we could draw a joint loan. Now that sounded quite impressive to me. It was one step forward in our relationship.

Recently she has been saying she doesnt feel there exists chemistry between the two. While i totally denied and told her this was a case of her ignorance and her moves to avoid me in fear she might get pregnant and fall in trouble. Now lets see how it goes. She then points out when we had an arguement, if people have affairs (sort of a one night stand) they never tell there partner and the same could happen. That dissappointed me.

See here is a move where she says we can start things together by having our financial part merged and there is another side where anyone could walk out of the life and not feel obliged to stay in the same relationship.

Easter Monday

2006-04-18T01:56:00.000-07:00

We had a great time in private on Monday. It was obviously after a long time. She said she was relaxed in my arms. I was surprised to hear it. Got a little emotional. We have a mini pet house in our home. Three Rabbits, a guinea pig. And yesterday we found a dog at the nearby football ground where we went for a jog. It followed us home. We took the dog to RSPCA but could not find its owner. She said we can keep the dog untill someone claims it. She is really soft at heart. But flips very quick at times and becomes very mean.

To say something about her she would say she likes to be with me today and suddenly flip to say the very presence of me around her makes me angry. One could just walk out of a women like her. but i really like her because the moment she says she likes me she says it from her heart. She never said she loved me and i dont know if it is going to happen. She has always said i would make a great husband to anyone i marry and asks me to find someone better and have a wonderfull life ahead instead of putting up with all the mean things she does.

While at home i do give her a hand with all the house hold work. Did some cleaning of the house, washed the clothes, and the dishes and this Easter i made a BIG rabbit cage and when i mean really big 2 m x 1.5 m x 1 m. She was happy. She was thankfull to me for doing things for her. I said she does more than that for me. She cooks me a wonderfull dinner when she doesnt have to. She does care for me inside her heart though she does not reveal it.

Anyway her ex-husband was on a vacation with his gf and came back. He did come to meet the kids too.

Will write more tomoro....cu guys

Easter Holidays

2006-04-18T01:35:00.000-07:00

A Fun Filled Holiday. Have a nice Easter hunt for the kids. The kids enjoyed it. Got some easter gifts for the kids too but had asked my gf to say she bought it. Would rate it at 7.0/10 in terms of happiness .

She still feels we are not compatible but says practically i would make a great companion for her.

Atlast ....It was confirmed.

2006-04-11T03:29:00.000-07:00

She atlast confirmed she was not pregnant. She felt relieved. I wanted to have a child. But i could understand i was still not stable enough to have a child.

We had a party last Sunday at her place. She sort of introduced me to her friends as her boyfriend. She said i could leave anytime incase i did not like the whole thing

She is Scared

2006-04-04T15:49:00.000-07:00

Well she is scared she might be pregnant. I said lets check it out. She asks me what do will you do if it was not the baby and just she was undergoing menopause.

Well i said i love to have a baby with her. but she doesnt want to do the test. She is postponing things. I am scared she might have a mis-carriage.

The Baby would bring me more closer to her.

She doesnt want it as she already has two pre-teenage kids and is scared what she would have to say to them.

She is angry with me at times....really angry...I think its just the hormones in her playing up. She likes me when i help her kid with the study.

is she my new girl friend

2006-04-03T15:15:00.000-07:00

Well i dont really know. All i know i am really mad about her and want to do things with her....

She is a mother of two and divorced. The two wonderfull kids she has live with her. We were seeing each other for about 8 months. Then she allowed me to stay with her. ofcourse i did pay some rent and she said she allowed me to stay as she had a financial crises. But i could not understand...? Why me then ? Why not some other lady...!

I still strongly feel she likes me ..but may be she cant accept it as she is 10 years elder than me and feels guilty.

She gets me on my nerves saying she doesnt like me...but at times she becomes very nice and affectionate and caring..!

I think she is my girl friend...what do you say?

Who am I

2006-04-02T23:22:00.000-07:00

A Student, Aspirant came to this Country from ofcourse India.
Now i am doing well with my study...thats what the professors say...lol

But eventually i was a little naughty..?

I am 27....had an ex-gf in India...but got to go our own ways and we split up. Decided to start a new life in Australia came here. Things were going on well when i met this women 37..Now i fell in love...Well thats what I think...

I will keep writing..

I am gonna start from no where

2006-04-02T16:55:00.000-07:00

Hey I am starting this Blog from No where...Its basically what happens in my life